My First

Photo by Rob Lambert

There will be others: some in Chicago, some out of state, some international.

There will be others: some with less people, some with more.

There will be others: some with older crowds, some with younger, some with fans, others with critics.

Saturday, October 23, 2010, was my first. My first reading and book signing for The Silence of Trees at the Book Cellar in Chicago’s Lincoln Square, and over 100 people came to help me celebrate!

Photo by Rob Lambert

I’ve been to many readings and signings for other writers, some with a handful of fans, others with hundreds. Each one has a different personality, a different vibe determined by the style of writing, the personality of the author, the venue, time of day, etc. They share a familiar format: you read, maybe Q&A, then sign. Different people throw in personal touches tied to their particular book.

For The Silence of Trees, we had free varenyky, a lovely cake adorned with the cover, and pysanka cookies baked and decorated by my sister, Nadya, & her friends.

Photo by Eight Eyes Photography

We also had a magnificent vorozhka, a fortune teller who read tarot cards for anyone who purchased a book.

Photo by Eight Eyes Photography

Prepared by my father, Ukrainian music played softly in the background, and a slideshow of Ukrainian imagery flashed across the screen behind me.

Photo by Walter Dudycz

The crowd was friendly and enthusiastic. They ordered coffee, tea, and wine, and they bought additional books to support our fabulous venue. Some people even brought in their previously purchased (and already read!) copies for me to sign.

Photo by Walter Dudycz

I read from the first chapter. (My husband attempted to record the reading, and if it turns out I’ll post it, but he was also chasing after our kids who were there and vying for my attention.) A few folks asked questions and made supportive comments, and then the signing.

Holy cow, I never realized that signing books was such a mental drain!

Perhaps it gets easier with practice? Perhaps I need a better pen? I ask those of you who have been doing this for far longer, does it get easier?

(Please share your experiences in the comments. I would love to hear about your first reading/signing, either as a writer or audience-member. )

After the first 50 books, the look of my own signature began to appear wrong, and there were more to sign! If I stopped to think about what I was doing, I got tripped up. Toward the end I was asked to sign in Ukrainian! A challenge on an ordinary day, shifting gears back to my first language at that point in the evening was tough. Thankfully they offered assistance. (Дякую!)

Photo by Eight Eyes Photography

In line, people stopped to chat and offer congratulations. It was overwhelming and wonderful, and I was surprised by some of the friends and family who were able to make it.

While I signed, my mom served varenyky, my sister passed out cookies, some friends jumped in to pass out cake. It reminded me of family parties or my father’s political fundraisers from my youth, when everyone would jump into their roles and help out at an event. We learned early on that you don’t stand around when there’s work to be done.

Photo by Rob Lambert

The staff at the Book Cellar were helpful and courteous, as always. After two Conclave Journal release parties, I feel at home there, and I’m never disappointed by their service.

Now that the book is in people’s hands, so many have contacted me to tell me that Nadya from The Silence of Trees reminded them of their mothers or grandmothers, their wives or mothers-in-law I’m so delighted! I wrote this book to honor those women, to share the type of experiences they lived through.

Photo by Rob Lambert

So that was it. My first book launch, and I wanted to record my impressions before I forgot, before I got caught up with the events on the horizon: Halloween parties, more readings/signings, the Hall of Fame Induction.

Thank you to my family and friends, to all who came out on the 23rd and to everyone who has ordered the book online. If you haven’t ordered your copy, you can buy it on Amazon, through wolfswordpress.org, or ordered from your favorite bookstore.

One last request, if you have read The Silence of Trees, please take a moment to review it on Amazon. The reviews help it to rise in the ranks get and get more attention! Thank you.

To see more photos from the signing, go to: Rob Lambert’s Photos

and Eight Eyes Photography (coming soon)

Building a Container

My dear friend Angie is a master at crafting celebrations, rituals, and events. She calls it “building a container.” I love that expression—the idea that we create a time and space to be filled with intention: be it with art, performance, remembrance, initiation, and so on.

Presented with an opportunity to host a photography workshop with Kyle Cassidy, I saw a chance to “build a container”: to create an opportunity for friends and artists to get together, learn from a talented teacher, and commit to making their art.

On Friday evening, Molly Robison, Lindsay, Madeline, and I picked up Kyle from the airport and drove to Kate’s lovely home, where we enjoyed bottles of Spanish wine and tapas. We met Kate’s dogs, admired her yard and amazing playhouse, listened to the fabulous Molly play, and sat on the deck enjoying the cool Chicago evening in the company of good friends (thanks Kate and Sam).

Saturday morning began with coffee, tea, and snacks as folks trickled in. After breakfast, participants discussed their experience and expectations. I wasn’t participating in the workshop, so I stayed in the kitchen chopping vegetables for the black bean soup and salad I planned to serve for lunch. (I was also eavesdropping and would occasionally peek through the doorway.)


(Fuzzy photo by my phone)

My parents were watching the kids for the weekend—affording Mark the time to work in the yard and giving me the time and space to be fully present.


(photo by Ellen of 8 Eyes Photography)

The weekend was filled with so many great moments as I watched people wander through Casa del Lobos and around the neighborhood—searching for perfect sunlight or appropriate background for this or that shot. I was able to spend time with some of my favorite people, and I made new friends I can’t wait to see again. I also had the opportunity to spend more time with Kyle, whom I genuinely like and respect; and I love that he’s a creative catalyst inspiring people to make art.


(photo by Ellen of 8 Eyes Photography)

It was creative bliss: meandering through cameras, light stands, portfolios, and notebooks; watching people view the world through their own particular lenses.

The weekend culminated in a wine & cheese gallery night on Sunday, where fantastic photographs from the weekend were displayed around our backyard, waiting to be discovered by friends and family while we savored wines and cheeses.


(photo of lovely assistant/model Angela Enos by Carl Hertz)

At one point, my parents brought over the kids to see the photos. It’s important to me that they grow up watching people pursue their passions, knowing that they too can create art and dream big. The kids left with my folks; and amidst tiki torches and candles, we gathered around Molly Robison to hear her play. It was the perfect close to the night and weekend.

On Monday, after a few photo shoots (Kyle was able to take a few portraits of Chicago area veterans for his newest book, War Paint), we stopped by the home of novelist Ysabeau Wilce, author of Flora Segunda (read it: fantastic world-building and compelling characters). I was introduced to Ysabeau and her husband, and we met Molly for lunch. After a delicious meal at Reza’s and lively conversation about Clarion, writing, giving birth, motherhood, schedules, and secret projects, it was suddenly time to get Kyle to the airport. The fabulous weekend was over.

The Sufi poet Rumi wrote: “Start a huge, foolish project, like Noah…it makes absolutely no difference what people think of you.” (Mawlana Jalal-al-Din Rumi)
I hope that everyone who came into contact with Kyle that weekend starts a “huge, foolish project.” I look forward to watching what happens next. I have no doubt it will be wonder-filled.

Meeting Neil

Conclave: A Journal of Character is printed and available on Amazon.com; the kitchen at Casa del Lobos is finished; I’ve finalized the plans for the Conclave Release Party (see next post); the kids performed in their first Ukrainian dancing performance; we found a mysterious hole in our basement that we thought was a crawlspace but is much deeper and has a ladder leading down into it, and I met Neil Gaiman.

I didn’t meet Neil in the hole in the basement, although wouldn’t that have been perfect in its own way?

I first “met” Neil thanks to the magic of twitter. Both of us are late-night writers online at the wee hours. This is one of the remarkable things about Twitter, that you can be in contact with other creative people whom you might otherwise not meet, and Neil is among a group of well-known writers, musicians, and artists who dip into twitter to communicate with fans and peers, and also to disseminate information. We had tried to orchestrate prior meetings, but tight schedules and other commitments made it impossible. The meet and greet at C2E2 was our only window this time. (Thank you, Cat and Lorraine.)

On Saturday, April 17, C2E2 hosted an Evening With Neil Gaiman at the Arie Crown Theater to benefit the Comic Book Legal Defense Fund (CBLDF). A colorful crowd for the Dream Experience held bags or stacks of Neil’s books, some toting small rolling suitcases filled with massive Absolute Sandman collections, waiting to be signed.

As we waited, we mingled; and my neighbors were the tall and cheeky Dr. Ross of Electrical Engineering at Purdue, the sweet and self-proclaimed shy Katie Barista from Terra Haute (see photo above), as well as a few others who floated in and out of our lively conversation that ranged from the need to supply scotch in waiting lines to coffee beans from Alabama to ex-lovers scarred by Billy Joel music.

Soon it was my turn, and after I introduced myself, Neil scooped me up in a hug that lifted me off the ground! (Those of you who know me well know that I am a hugger. I hug with ferocity the people dear to me, and I value a strong hug. This was a strong hug.)

He was sweet and sincere, and he made me feel as if we were old friends reunited. We spoke quickly about our tables by designed Kwak Chulan, the fascinating (albeit frustrating) phenomenon of the ashcloud, and how grand it would be to hear Gene Wolfe read again. Cat took a photo that she promised to send (I’ll post it when I get it), and I stepped aside to give the next person their opportunity.

After meeting Tony Harris, whose beautiful Art Nouveau-style artwork illustrates Neil’s poem about Sts. Oran and Columba, In Relig Oran, on a print that we were given at the event (signed by both men), I took my seat in the front row, next to Katie Barista and Dr. Ross.

We watched as the remaining fans had items signed and posed for photographs while engaging in surreal conversations with nearby folks about vampirism, the ability of human eggs to select their sperm, and the relative sex appeal of people in different professions.

Then Neil and Cat thanked everyone and went offstage to dine, while the rest of the ticket holders filed into the theater for the “Evening With…” event that began at 7pm.

Acclaimed comic book illustrator Jim Lee graciously introduced Neil, who then began reading: some new poems and stories, and some older pieces that he hadn’t read aloud in nearly ten years. He is a master storyteller, and his words come alive when spoken by the author himself.

From the beginning, Neil was conversational on the stage and seemed to genuinely enjoy himself, more freely sporting his puckish grin as the evening went on. After a brief intermission, he returned to answer questions collected from the crowd that included: how to get a publisher’s attention, subtle rebellion against a grammar school teacher, his upcoming Dr. Who episode, and his writing process. Walking around the stage, Neil would frequently look around and make eye contact with the audience. It’s one of his gifts, this ability to make people feel included.

The event ran late, much to the delight of his fans, and after sincere thanks for attending and supporting the CBLDF, Neil made a gracious exit.

Neil secured a special place in my family’s heart when he named one of his characters in The Graveyard Book Miss Lupescu (since that is the name of the family I married into. I go by Valya Dudycz Lupescu). My children adore his books and audiobooks, and they loved the film adaptation of Coraline. We have had lively family discussions about the differences between the two media. I treasure books and films that encourage a discourse between parents and children about things like making hard choices, fear, bravery, and fairies (my daughter missed the little fairy ghost girl from the book Coraline).

This is one of the things I admire about Neil’s writing—that it can bridge generations and entertain children, parents, and grandparents. He has books that would not be of interest to kids, but there are others that appeal to both. Certainly adults can appreciate allusions in them that may be lost on children, and kids can appreciate with a childlike wonder the absolute adventure of his words.

On Sunday morning, when I told my oldest daughter about the CBLDF event and showed her photographs on my phone, she was impressed. My photo with Neil gained me points in the cool-meter of my almost seven-year-old. This is no small feat and is probably my favorite part of the Dream Experience.

“Can he come to our house someday, Mama?” she asked. “So I can meet him and show him our Coraline door?”

Maybe. I have a lot of tea.

As Neil says, “Dream dangerously.”

***  Edited to add the link to Cat’s Chicago/Stillwater photographs: http://picasaweb.google.com/furrytiger/CHiStill?feat=email# ***