One Book, One Chicago

After teaching my daughter’s class about DaVinci and making Picasso Portraits with my son’s kindergarten class, I took the train downtown and met up with Ellen Prather of 8 Eyes Photography to walk over to the Harold Washington Library. It was a glorious, sunny afternoon in Chicago, and I was looking forward to the conversation between Audrey Niffenegger and Neil Gaiman, whose book Neverwhere was chosen as this year’s One Book, One Chicago.

Audrey Niffenegger and Neil Gaiman (Photo by 8 Eyes Photography)

They did not disappoint. After collecting our tickets and posters, Ellen and I found our seats in the second row and waited: watching the crowd and eavesdropping on bits of conversation about Neil and Amanda, Neverwhere, twitter, The Time Traveler’s Wife, and Dr. Who.

Following an eloquent introduction by Mary Dempsey and a word from the sponsor (Allstate), Audrey and Neil began with a comfortable conversation about London and “Magic City Books,” as well as the inspiration and evolution of Neverwhere. Neil and Audrey discussed creativity, generosity, readings, and fairy tales (among other things) and then opened up to questions from the audience.

Audrey Niffenegger and Neil Gaiman (Photo by 8 Eyes Photography)

My favorite of the answers to questions from the audience were those that led Neil and Audrey to talk about their process. As a writer, this is the part of interviews that most interests me. I love hearing about how other people find inspiration and deal with challenges. They talked about “writer’s block” and the ways they circumvent it, and each described a few of the books they are currently reading.

One young boy in my row asked about the inspiration for Coraline, which launched Neil into a conversation of how his daughter Holly (now in her twenties and a milliner in London), would jump up on his lap after school and dictate stories rich and dark and populated by all manner of monsters, ghosts, and other mothers. Unable to find ghost stories for five-year-olds, he decided that he would write some.

The story made me laugh because it reminded me so much of my youngest, my blueberry girl, who is full of scary stories and wild rides of her imagination. It was one of many times that Neil would describe something about his writing process, and I found myself nodding enthusiastically, thinking to myself: I thought only I did that. I thought only I thought that. Always nice to hear those echoes from someone I admire.

Time flew by. It was over in an hour, and Audrey and Neil graciously took their leave.

Neil Gaiman (Photo by 8 Eyes Photography)

 

Blueberry Girl Blessing

After I had children, I became even more aware of the passing of time. In the midst of our busy lives, it’s sometimes a challenge to be present, to really enjoy the moments, the milestones, the miracles.

I’m a firm believer in the power of small celebrations and rituals. They help us to slow down and pay attention, to reconsider the ordinary and celebrate the extraordinary. Rites of passage help us to honor the present moments and also provide us with ways to mark milestones and come together with our communities.

For both my older children I had done “Baby Blessings” with circles of women dear to me. The ceremonies were based on the picture book The Twelve Gifts by Charlene Costanzo. Each of my friends, the real-life fairy goddessmothers, bestowed one of the “twelve gifts” from the book and wrote letters that would be opened upon the child’s rite of passage into adulthood.

I did the Baby Blessings for my oldest two while they were still toddlers. Living overseas, working on the novel, I somehow did not arrange for a Blessing for my youngest. I kept planning to have it on one of our visits home, but that time was always so hectic.

Then we moved back to the States and bought/remodeled Casa del Lobos and life became more complicated and chaotic. The youngest will be four in a few months, and I knew that it was time.

I could no longer call it a Baby Blessing, so what to call it? She’s spunky, smart, and spirited and keeps up with her older siblings (plus she loves blueberries), so I decided to use Neil Gaiman’s Blueberry Girl as the touchstone. Voila! Her Blueberry Girl Blessing was born!

Again I asked women dear to me, this time accompanied by their children, to attend the ceremony dressed in shades of blue and bearing blueberry treats to share. They came with letters and gifts, and we read from Blueberry Girl (I had divided the book up into chunks that each woman read while passing around a bowl of blueberries that my daughter later devoured).

I wanted to include the other children in this blessing, so I purchased animal-shaped watering cans, and after the grown-ups’ blessings, I instructed them to think of happy thoughts and pour the magical invisible blessings onto my 3-year-old’s head. The kids (aged 2-7) performed with surprising solemnity and smiles. It was precious.

At the end, my  daughter offered all the participants their own blueberry (blue glass) bead strung on a necklace of hemp as a gift of thanks. Then we shared blueberry mimosas, blueberry tea, cakes, cookies, and fruit. It was short, sweet, and perfect. My blueberry girl finally had her blessing.

Photo by 8 Eyes Photography

As the third child, she has always shared the spotlight (although she has no trouble with getting people’s attention). However this was her special day dedicated to honoring the little person she is becoming, as well as laying the foundation for a circle of women that she can call upon when she gets older. I think she felt cherished and honored, and I hope that she felt a part of something larger than herself.

“Truth is a thing she must find for herself,
precious, and rare as a pearl;
Give her all these, and a little bit more,
Gifts for a Blueberry Girl.”
from Blueberry Girl by Neil Gaiman
with beautiful illustrations by Charles Vess

Distractions (but not really)

Last week Mark was in Germany, so I had a lot of time to write into the wee hours of the morning (when the kids cooperated). To keep my hands busy while I was editing (rather than my usual snacking), I dug up some clay and played with it while re-reading and thinking.

I decided to make one of the characters in the next book (S.C.), and I’m quite happy with the results. Meet Clancy (here being admired by one of Lisa Snellings’ Classic Little Red Poppets (take a Poppet home with you here):

It was a fun experience, and he now keeps me company while I write. Back to work…